The Society that suits the Filipino Culture Best
 
The Society that suits the Filipino Culture Best
Posted: December 4, 2009 11:38 PM by: Odilon (Ody) dela Merced

I have Filipino clients living or have migrated in western countries that are struggling to preserve the Filipino culture within their families.  They speak and insist on speaking tagalog in their homes to help maintain in their children valuable Filipino culture.  Their children practice the traditional "mano" upon greeting their parents.  They remain religious. They are open and genuinely friendly with co-Filipinos.  And they are vocal about their disdain to second and third generation Filipinos living in their neighborhood that became westernized almost completely.

On the other hand, what I saw in Saudi Arabia was different.  I have never experienced back stabbing, double faced Filipino co-employees elsewhere.  They pretend to be your friend in your company but completely puts you down when your back is turned.  And this seems to be consistent with my friend's experience in other parts of Saudi Arabia who stayed there much longer than I did.  I think I have seen the worst character in Filipinos in that middle eastern country.

Is it because the scums of Philippine society had to desperately accept jobs in this  Islamic state because they can't find work elsewhere?  Or is it because, Filipinos show their worst character in societies where the Filipino culture is suppressed such as not being able to practice Catholic religion?

My friends in Dubai and in Quatar tell me a different story.  They say that whenever Filipinos got together, they felt right at home as if they were in the Philippines.  They were a lot wholesome than the ones I saw in Saudi Arabia.

In a multi-cultured society such as Singapore, I saw the happiest Filipinos even if their families were not with them but remained in the Philippines. This makes me think that maybe it is because Filipinos are allowed to practice openly their Catholic religion.  I find that this is not the only reason.

From a completely open society such as in western countries where new Filipino migrants are struggling to maintain their Filipino culture to multi-culture society such as Singapore where Catholic religion is not only allowed but encouraged to Middle Eastern Countries where religious freedom is allowed such as Dubai and Quatar albeit majority are Arabs and then, finally, to a strict Islamic state of Saudi Arabia there appears to be the following general observation:  If the Filipino is exposed to very liberal society such as western countries, he tends to get inculturated and struggles hard to maintain his Filipino culture. If exposed to a strict Islamic state he shows the Mr. Hyde in him.  If allowed freedom of religion but at the same time immersed in a society that generally maintains asian conservatism he becomes more at home.  But if he lives in a society where the population is mostly east asian and allows freedom of religion, and government plays a dominant role in society, he becomes happiest.

So from my limited observation, maybe I have found the best model society for our OFW and that is a country where society is open yet not too liberal, where government is authoritarian yet benevolent, and where he is allowed and even encouraged to practice his religion.

Maybe that is the kind of society we need to have here in our own beloved country?

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Posted: December 23, 2009 2:39 AM by: Judith Magnaye
Interesting random observations. Well because Filipinos have probably the most diverse culture to start with, with 7000 islands and more than a hundred various dialects. Indeed it's very hard to generallize. Assimilation is a key factor for 2nd and 3rd generation Fil-Ams; it seems easier and more practical for them to integrate themselves and excel in the mainstream. I assume assimilation as a survival mechanism also applies to other Filipino-hyphenate communities. Indeed, now spread over 140 countries in the world, the Filipino diaspora is demographically, geographically and culturally complex. To date, there has been no known concentrated effort to collect and consolidate factual, visual, anecdotal and empirical data on the Philippine diaspora to more than 142 countries. The ongoing trials, tribulations and triumphs of Filipino workers abroad form a powerful narrative that must be celebrated by future generations as part of their heritage. At the same time, the astounding numbers and trends, in both migration patterns and remittances, need to be collected and consolidated consistently to provide scholars, policymakers, the media, think-tank groups and others with solid data for analysis in shaping and creating new policies that would better protect the rights and the voice of Filipino migrants and immigrants scattered across the globe. Re your observations of Filipinos' attitudes who are living and working in repressive vs freedom-loving countries are true.. How often do we read horror stories from abroad about Filipino teachers-turned-housemaids raped and physically abused—with some imprisoned for running away, while others await execution for killing their abusive employers? Surely, there are less tragic situations that don’t make it in the news: contract workers prevented from going home to the Philippines in the event of a death in the family, much less for Christmas or their children’s graduation. We also hear stories of overburdened and underpaid seamen, or performers forced into prostitution. These Filipinos bravely cross the borders even in the face of harsh challenges, sacrificing their own well being for a better life for their families. Needless to say, working overseas, away from their loved ones, exacts a heavy emotional toll. This is why stories of non-violent, rational individuals committing crimes abroad are becoming increasingly common. While our government and embassies do the best they can, they are often hampered by multiple mandates, budgetary and/or bilateral trade constraints to be able to cover the different needs of Filipinos immigrants, especially in troubled regions. During the first Gulf War, for example, dozens of Filipino domestic helpers in Kuwait, Iraq, Saudi Arabia and neighboring Gulf States, who took advantage of the chaotic situation to run away from abusive employers, were left stranded in embassies for a long time, either awaiting repatriation or placement with other employers. Our embassies did not have enough resources to cope with such a crisis and had to seek assistance from host governments. On the other hand, we witness developed countries, including the United States, recruit our best doctors, nurses, educators and technology experts in a cycle of brain drain that has been the byproduct of Philippine poverty. The kind of Filipinos we have in the USA as well as those in other developed countries, are Filipinos with so much to offer. Unlike their counterparts in Middle Eastern, European and some Asian cities, who are more often under oppressive circumstances, Filipinos in America, for the most part, are privileged to live in a society where they are not only free to avail of the idealized way of life, but are also given many opportunities to improve the quality of their lives, be it through continuing education, career changes, or volunteering. As a collective group, therefore, they form a rich pool of resources (doctors, nurses, lawyers, IT specialists, among others) just waiting to be tapped. With regard to religion, I remember an anecdote from Cardinal Gaudencio Rosales of Manila when he celebrated at St. Patrick’s Cathedral in New York in 2006. He mentioned that Filipino babysitters who were taking care of the children of some members of the royal family in Saudi Arabia ended up humming the Ama Namin while putting their wards to sleep since they could not practice their religion or express their faith openly. The amazing part is that the children eventually demanded from their yayas to hum that song each time, because they got so used to it and they loved the melody.
Posted: April 25, 2010 1:43 PM by: jose peralta


Hi Ody! Please refrain from referring Tagalog as the Filipino National language.  It is not!  The national language is Filipino( or Pilipino).  We in the academe prefer to use the one with the F.  While the national language maybe modeled from Tagalog, initially, it has gone much evolution, and has a long long way, since Pres Manuel L Quezon declared it as the national language.  The current vocabolary includes imeldific, balay, carinosa, and etc( which are definitely not Tagalog). 

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